If you’re struggling with comparing yourself to others, here are a few quick tips to help you work through those feelings.
Control your social media intake
Social media is where most of us end up comparing our lives, but it isn’t representative of how others live at all. You see the smiling faces on the beach, but probably not the missed flight on the way home or the sacrifices they made to save the money for their wedding.
People control what they put on their page and remember it’s a highlight reel. They omit the things they don’t want to share and focus on only the things they want others to see.
Don’t buy into the hype. When you find yourself pausing and looking enviously at someones good fortune, remind yourself that this is just the surface. Everyone has problems.
Don’t compare your weakness to another person’s strength
We’re all different. Just like it’s not fair for someone using a walker to compare themselves to a racing champion, it’s also not fair for you to compare your weak points to other people’s strengths. The next time you feel jealous of your coworker’s or friends ability to multitask or handle unique situations, remember that you have strengths too—just not that one.
Count your blessings
Perspective is EVERYTHING. If you have food on the table. Lights, electricity, and even the internet, it is a blessing. While it may be hard to believe, being wealthy doesn’t actually make you happier. At least, after basic needs are taken care of. You tend to be a lot happier once food, security, shelter, and heat are all available to you.
Not happy with yourself? Use it as a motivator
Sometimes comparing yourself can be useful if it is used in a positive way. If your best friend is losing weight, gaining muscle, and looking fabulous, use that as a motivator to walk more or eat a healthier meal. If you see someone else thrilled with a new position at a great company while you’re stuck at your old job, use that as inspiration to dust off your resume and put yourself out there.
Remember, comparing yourself with others is natural, but it doesn’t need to be negative or a consuming part of your life.
Let me know how you overcome comparison in the comments below.
xo Yinka
Photography: Norman Oates
This is such a valuable message. Thank you!